mertua VS menantu

kadang2 kita pon tak pasti apa yang akan berlaku bila kita menjadi isteri...orang kata menjadi isteri bukan je memahami perangai suami tercinta tetapi kita juga kena memahami seluruh keluarga terutama mak mertua (MIL)...

artikel kat bawah ni aku amik dari kawan aku..urmm..mengikut artikel ni kebanyakan penceraian berlaku akibat mak mertua..mungkin juga kan?ramai juga la kawan2 aku yang meluahkan rasa pasal MIL ni....itulah..susah nak cakap pasal ni...sensitip kan?apapun kepada kawan2 ku..BERSABAR lah..kerana sabar adalah kunci segala kejayaan...kena fikir juga..MIL dah jaga anak dia lama dah...dari besar tapak tangan sampai besaq panjang..jadi..memang susah dia nak lepaskan anak dia kat kita..

untuk korang baca sekali lah ye...

Study confirms mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces

KUALA LUMPUR: Every married person knows it, but a local study has confirmed it – mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces, especially in the Indian community.

Data in the Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) revealed that “meddlesome in-laws” is the number one reason why Indian couples get divorced.

It is also among the top three factors for divorce among the Malays and Chinese. The other two factors are incompatibility (42.3%) and infidelity (12%).

“Interference by in-laws is the main reason for Indians to divorce. It is the top-ranked reason at 30%,” said LPPKN director-general Datuk Aminah Abdul Rahman when presenting a paper on Malaysia’s family profile and its effects at Institut Kefahaman Islam Malaysia yesterday.

Infidelity is the marriage breaker among the Malays and Indians but it is tolerated among the Chinese.

“Among Malays, the second most common reason is infidelity and refusal to put up with polygamy,” she said.

“Among the Indians, infidelity is the second highest ranked reason for divorce at 25%,” she said.

However, the Chinese considered infidelity as the least crucial reason for a divorce.

Cheating was at the bottom along with health and gambling addiction at 4.2%.

Surprisingly, abuse is not a reason for divorce among the Malays and Chinese, but is a reason among Indians at 5%.

“Another overall reason which ranked high among the three races at 11.5% is ‘not being responsible’,” she said.

Although it is common perception that the family institution is quite fragile and divorces are rampant, data shows otherwise - only 0.7% of the population was divorced in 2000.

The data shows that divorce is more likely to happen to those under 25 and above 40.

Meanwhile, Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil said that more Malaysian women were choosing to marry later in life and it could cause a reduction in fertility rate and an ageing society.

“The National Family Policy and its action plan will address this issue of late marriages,” she said.

The policy would be presented to the Cabinet soon.